Our main focus is navigating interpersonal relationship dynamics with the goal of harm and violence reduction. Within that, we cover a range of topics including consent, bystander intervention, available resources, healthy relationships, holding space for survivors, the relationship between sexual misconduct and alcohol, understanding trauma, and much more.
We’re happy to send you overviews of the program itself or chat more. Just ask!*
75 minutes, 60 minutes, or 45 minutes. Our “standard” option is 75 minutes. A very popular option is 60 minutes. And some schools prefer the 45 minute session, especially if they’re doing multiple educational sessions in the same day.
Our style is both charismatic and conversational. We have preferences for group sizes in order to maintain that. Those preferences are negotiable, and vary depending on the type of group we’re talking to, the setting, your budget, schedules, etc.
We also make some specific requests on the types of spaces and places we’ll talk about this, given the sensitive nature of the topic.
Having said that, we’ll work with you to make sure this is the best possible presentation within your constraints. We’re pretty flexible as long as we’re all on the same page about what the end goal is.
That depends on which talk type you book. One person is typically maxed out at about four talks per day if it’s the standard 75 version, five if it’s the 60 minute, and six if it’s the 45 minute version.
If you need more than that (look at you!), you can book multiple presenters on the same day.
The program itself is one charismatic presenter essentially doing an interactive and educational lecture for the given booked amount of time. Depending on your population and needs, some program elements may be tweaked for more or less active conversations.
We bring some prizes. We might as you to provide some prizes. We bring people onstage. We talk. We interact. We hold space. And, hopefully, we make an impact.
We have a standard rate we ask for the program, plus travel and lodging.
There are so many variables that are factored into our asking price including number of programs you need, length of those programs, number of days you need, number of times per year, the requested time of year, your location, etc.
We are happy to have a conversation with you to figure out how we can make it work if there are financial constraints.
Sex Rules is presented by a handful of highly-trained, incredibly charismatic, delightfully playful, and deeply passionate advocates. To learn more about each person, check out their individual bios here.
You can make specific requests for people, but we can’t always guarantee them depending on that individual’s personal schedule. We’re proud to hire excellent and in-demand presenters for this program. That also means they can get booked and busy in their respective lives outside of it.
We are also proud to be an excellent and in-demand program. So that means sometimes we have to get creative with making sure this can be in as many spaces as possible to have the biggest impact possible. Routing, weather, availability, flights, etc, can all play a factor in who ends up coming to campus.
What we do promise is that you will know who is coming to campus before they show up. And that whoever shows up is fully present, prepared, flexible, kind, and invested in making the program experience a success.
We can’t speak to all the options out in this space. And we have a deep respect for anyone and everyone who are out there advocating for the reduction of interpersonal violence in our world. As far as we’re concerned we’re all on the same team.
What we can promise is that every single presenter who brings the Sex Rules program to your campus brings a polished and professional approach to a tough conversation that carefully balances necessary heaviness with appropriate levity. Our presenters come into this work with years of onstage experience, train for months to make sure they’re sharp, genuinely care about this topic on a personal level, and deliver exactly what is expected of this program.
Time and time again the overwhelmingly positive feedback responses make it clear that no matter who is on campus presenting Sex Rules, participants feel seen, empowered, and better understand how they can navigate the inevitable challenges the world might throw at them on both personal and peer-to-peer levels.
Plus, they’re often delighted that the program was actually engaging while delivering the detailed material, and made them actually want to pay attention the entire time.
To be clear: We are not a one-size-fits-all solution. Nor do we think that one educational talk can eradicate all personal violence in the world.
Realistically, if you can bring multiple presenters and talks on this subject to your community, you absolutely should. The more we talk about this, the more we improve our culture. We even have a few favorite peers in this space we’re happy to suggest if you’re looking for other options.
What we do know, though, is that this presentation seems to really resonate with people from all backgrounds and demographics in a way that feels refreshing, impactful, and genuinely special.
Not really. Technically, yes, sure. We have computers and know how to Zoom.
But a major promise of the program is an in-person experience built on creating a shared connection and a safe space. That’s really tough to replicate online.
We are working on building online modules specifically made for screen-centric consumption that can supplement elements of this work. But as of now, we only (want to) do in person experiences.
Year round! We are happy to present this program anytime you want your community to feel a sense of support and empowerment.
The most popular time for this program are new student orientation in late August and early September. The second most popular time of the year is in April for Sexual Assault Awareness Month.
We suggest booking during for the more popular times as far in advance as you can if you want to secure a certain date, time, or sometimes even presenter.
We’re so glad you asked. You absolutely can. In fact, the creator of the program, Briana Hansen, attended a faith-based university (who hired her back in 2024 to talk to the incoming students with this very program). Multiple faith-based institutions have placed their trust in this program to deliver an important message in a respectful way.
There are two standard ways we modify for faith-based institutions. Both of them involve tweaking elements of the content to respect navigating certain content limitations. And one of them involves tweaking the name altogether to change from Sex Rules to Consent Rules.
But when we tweak small parts of the program, the majority of the content, our overall approach, and all of the interactive elements remain the same.
The truth is, we do not need talk about certain elements of sexual interaction or contraception to teach about consent. Because you do not need to be sexually active in order to experience sexual misconduct.
Yep, all the time. This is well-received by fraternities and sororities alike.
We also have other programs specific to party culture like Feeling Risky. Many schools choose to do these trainings back-to-back to knock out a lot of important information in one big interactive session.
Oh yeah. Since athletes have to have this type of training often, they’re usually relieved and delighted to have something that catches and keeps their interest.
And our iconic “Sex Rules” referee shirts are particularly popular amongst student athletes.
We hare happy to work with you to provide content overviews, breakdown percentages, and anything else you may need to provide in order to have this program be a supplement to educational and resource offerings made with various federal grants.
We’re not familiar with all of ‘em, but we have worked with a ton of ‘em (especially OVW grants). We’re happy to work with you to try to make it happen.
We certainly try to be. As far as we’re concerned, this is a conversation about how to be a good human being. We use carefully chosen language, are deeply respectful of personal autonomy, and offer personal suggestions not standardized prescriptions.
It’s hard to explain out of context, but the program is carefully crafted, meticulously thought out, and constantly tweaked.
We create a playful space where we call out the awkwardness of conversations around sexuality. We weave pop culture references and some absurdist elements to surprise people and keep them on their toes.
But we never punch down, belittle, or even try to make light of serious trauma.
Also there are dinosaur puns. So, there’s that.
Nope. We’re happy to visit high schools and military communities who would benefit from these types of conversations. We have programs that are geared to the specific needs of those communities readily available.
Yes. Well, sort of. Every presenter is trained to do the standard program, basically word-for-word. But each person has their own style and jokes that are made within the context of the program itself to keep it personal and playful.
While we maintain the overall approach and structure, we are also always open to feedback and keeping our ear on the ground for what is and isn’t working in this program or in this culture. If it becomes obvious that certain elements of the program aren’t resonating or are problematic for any reason, we modify.
At least once per year we do a detailed program update to make sure everything is really working, which has included making updates based on participant and presenter feedback.
This type of conversation is ever-evolving. We want to make sure we keep up with it.
We sure do. Check ‘em out here. And we are always working on more ways to inspire and improve lives.
